EducationCorner.com has some disturbing statistics on what students today have to deal with. It reports:
90% of students in grades 4-8 report have been harassed or bullied.
28% of students in grades 6-12 experience bullying.
20% of students in grades 9-12 experience bullying. (stopbullying.gov)
Over 160,000 kids refuse to go to school each day for fear of being bullied. (Nation Education Association)
6% of students report having witnessed bullying in their school, and over 71% say bullying is a problem.
Over 10% of students who drop out of school do so due to being bullied repeatedly.
Nearly 75% of school shootings have been linked to harassment and bullying.
The Daily Mail article, Secret Service study… reports that
“most [75% according to statistics above] students who committed deadly school attacks over the past decade were badly bullied, had a history of disciplinary trouble and their behaviour concerned others but was never reported, according to a U.S. Secret Service study.”
Canadian Red Cross says
Over half of bullied children do not report being bullied to a teacher
71 % of teachers say they usually intervene with bullying problems, but only 25% of students say that teachers intervene.
Over 71% of young people say bullying is a problem, and they are right. These statistics prove it. I find these statistics alarming, especially as a retired educator. I spent my entire career dealing with school bullies. I’ve always tried to address bullying problems when they arose—which was often. When I read that 71 % of teachers say they usually intervene with bullying problems, but only 25% of students say that teachers intervene, I am astounded. Is this a perception problem, or are many teachers all talk? Just because some teachers say they intervene, doesn’t mean they do, and what is that intervention? Is it a “tongue lashing,” some form of punitive action, or forcing the bully to apologize? I’ve tried all these methods and none of them curb bullying.
During much of my teaching years, I considered bullies to be “bad” kids who needed a good dose of discipline, which meant punishing them punitively with detentions, expulsions, and even corporal punishment. Yes, corporal punishment was used when I first began teaching. Typically, the aim of punitive approaches is either to punish the offender or satisfy feelings of revenge. Now I look at the problem of bullying differently.
American author, Joel Osteen says,
“Keep in mind, hurting people often hurt other people as a result of their own pain. If somebody is rude and inconsiderate, you can almost be certain that they have some unresolved issues inside. They have some major problems, anger, resentment, or some heartache they are trying to cope with or overcome.”
Joel Osteen is right! Bullies are really hurting people who take their pain out on others. As the adage says, “hurting people hurt people.” I am convinced that when we start addressing the hurts of people who bully, we will begin to heal the hearts of these bullies. One less hurting person is one less bully!
My book, “A Shattered New Start,” is written with this mindset and shows the human side of bullies. It is a story about a bully, Ryan, and his victim, Jonathan. Here is a teaser.